April 05, 2013
Do YOU matter?
One of my radio show guests this week told me that she ends each day by asking herself three questions: Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?
Her purpose in doing so is to see what she has done well, and what she might improve upon the following day.
The question of "mattering" is an interesting one.
By virtue of our very existence, we matter. We are comprised of particles that give us a physical structure in the world. We are matter.
I worked with a vocal coach recently who had me do an exercise related to "mattering."
First, he asked me who I was. He asked me to define myself. He asked me why I was important.
Because we were working on the idea of "finding voice" as relevant to the radio show and my medical practice, my first responses had to do with my professional roles. I defined myself as a doctor, writer and radio show host. I told him that the work I was doing was important because I was able to give other people a metaphorical "space" in which to find healing.
That wasn't the answer. I was unable to project these ideas adequately across the room to the coach. My voice was weak. I was too much in my head.
The coach told me to go deeper: to find my true voice from within. To use my diaphragm and utilize my breath to send words out into the world.
Then he repeated: Who are you? Why do you matter?
I tried again. And again. I wasn't getting it right. He kept pushing me. He wanted me to get to the core of the question.
Who are you? Why do you matter?
Frustrated, I blurted out, "I am Lisa."
He smiled. Finally.
He had me do the same thing several more times, reaching uncomfortably deep into my body and virtually shouting my response in a loud, resonant voice.
I am Lisa. That is who I am, and that is why I matter.
That is why we matter.
We matter because we are alive.
We have, through some miracle, come into being. We exist.
With our existence comes the opportunity to live fully and love much.
We can choose to treat our bodies with kindness and respect.
We can choose to treat others with kindness and respect.
These are the lessons from our radio show guests this week--author and women's health expert Marcelle Pick, Cheverus High School Safe Passage Support team members Emily Mander and Michael Komich, and naturopathic physician Dr. Masina Wright.
Each, in their own way, shares how we can build on this gift of vitality that we have been given; this gift of existence.
Do YOU matter?
We all do.
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