January 05, 2012
Conflict begets interest.
Much as we would like to believe in the notion of complete stability, this notion is somewhat foreign to the human condition.
We are, down to the microscopic level, in a constant state of flux. Positively charged ions move through cell membranes in the body and are exchanged with negatively charged ions. The process is ongoing.
When it stops, the system fails.
A state of absolute halt isn't truly realistic. In physics, there is a concept known as the "zero-point field." The ZPF is a theoretical vacuum state, in which energy is at its lowest level.
One would assume that nothing would be happening in this vacuum.
One would be incorrect.
Even in a vacuum state, there is a constant low levelof energy exchange, as electromagnetic particles and waves move in and out of the field.
Such is the case with humans. People move in and out of our lives. Relationships shift and change.
Stability is a relative term. We can't help but engage in energy exchange with other humans.
Conflict simply represents the exchange of energy at a higher level.
Conflict can be extreme and dangerous. It can be threatening to our lives and livelihood.
It can also be interesting and energizing. Think about the world's great novels, plays and movies: all are centered around conflict.
Boy meets girl. Boy loses girl. Boy finds girl. Resolution.
Country A starts a war with Country B. Losses ensue. Cooler heads prevail. Resolution.
No conflict = no energy exchange = no interest.
When we lose interest in something/someone, we remove our energy from the situation. There ceases to be interaction.
Death of the relationship ensues.
Ponder that the next time you decide to engage in "conflict avoidance."
Instead, learn how to interact with those who challenge you, as uncomfortable as it might make you feel.
The zero-point field may offer more stability, but it can be an awfully boring place to live.
Bailey Island, 2011